so, i pretty much suck at making regular blog posts (i have no idea how so many people manage to do it daily), but here is the news: tigerlily and jabari are getting along swimmingly!
there were some rough patches in the beginning, i.e. lots of growling, hissing and keeping of distances. but they moved pretty quickly onto the wrastlin' mania stage and they are now wrestling for play. there is a common fascination with water and an affinity towards all things feathery.
jabari started out as more of the aggressor/instigator, but lily has gotten more confidant and the tides have turned. jabari was initially being somewhat territorial and chasing lily out of the bedroom. he is still quite a bit bigger than lily, but she is standing her ground now and they are both sleeping on the bottom of the bed at night.
jabari is also such a boy! he plays quite differently than tigerlily and looks generally like a bit of a doofus in comparison. lily is very patient, she quietly stalks, then sneaks up on her prey and "kills" it quite thoroughly, finally carting it back to her "den" (the bathroom, i have no idea why). jabari doesn't really stalk anything--he just goes for it. sliding around on the hardwood floors, skidding into the rug (and rearranging the furniture a bit), then clamping on to the toy with his powerful jaw, ripping off a few feathers (or whatever) and then he calls it good. he walks off satisfied only to come skittering back the moment it starts to move again. he is a bull and hilarious to watch!
i have been claiming victories with jabari in small steps: first trimming a few toenails at a time (they were soooo long), then applying some "soft claws" because he thinks my couch is a giant scratching post (he refuses to scratch the post, or the new catnip scratcher we got for him--this is probably one of the reasons his previous owner decided he was destructive and couldn't handle him) and finally giving him ear drops to treat mites.
overall, he is a great cat--very sweet and funny. it is kind of fun to have a big goofball of a cat bulldozing his way around and i think lily is really enjoying having a companion. my biggest concern right now is that i seem to be much more allergic to jabari than lily (which was basically my motivation behind getting a bengal in the first place), but i think i will adjust and build up a bit of an immunity (fingers crossed). they are a lot of fun and i am enjoying their company.